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    The Most Fierce

    And though she be but little, she is fierce!

    ~William Shakespeare


    I don't recall ever reading A Midsummer Night’s Dream, so maybe that's why I didn't recognize this quote right away when I first read it. Yet, once I had, I couldn't shake it - as it brought my thespian daughter so clearly to mind. She exists with wild abandon; energy, enthusiasm, verve - she lives each moment to its very fullest potential. So, it is with her vivacity in mind, I decided to make this one Shakespearian line into a print, as an homage to her; my little girl, the actor, and the most fierce of all. 



    Posted: Oct 31 2012, 11:16 by kelly | Comments (0) RSS comment feed |
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    Everything is Life

    Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.
    ~ Marthe Troly-Curtin

    So, I like Wire Tap (a show on public radio); though I don't often get to tune in. But, Adam came home from work telling me this evening's episode was listen-worthy, so, I went online & found it.

    The second half of the show starts with a reading from David Eagleman's book, Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives

    It's fascinating, and worth a listen (actually, the whole episode is worth a listen, but even if you just tune in for the first few minutes to hear the reading of the short story, it'll be enough to understand the point of my post).

    Here's the link (there's a short commercial at the start, reading begins about 30s in): 

    wiretap_20091114_23048.mp3 (12.21 mb) 

    (a bit of transcription, in case the link doesn't work for you...)

    In the afterlife you relive all your experiences, but this time with the events reshuffled into a new order.

    All the moments that share a quality are grouped together: 

    You spend two months driving the street in front of your house. 

    7 months having sex. 

    You sleep for 30 years without opening your eyes. 

    For 5 months straight you flip through magazines while sitting on a toilet. 

    You take all your pain at once: all 27 intense hours of it. 

    Bones break, cars crash, skin is cut, babies are born. 

    Once you make it through though, it's agony free for the rest of your afterlife.

    That doesn't mean it's always pleasant. 

    You spend 6 days clipping your nails. 

    15 months looking for lost items.

    18 months waiting in line.

    Two years of boredom staring out a bus window, sitting in an airport terminal.

    1 year reading books; your eyes hurt and you itch because you can't take a shower until it's your time to take your marathon 200 day shower

    2 weeks wondering what happens when you die

    1 minute realizing your body is falling

    77 hours of confusion

    1 hour realizing you've forgotten someone's name

    3 weeks realizing you're wrong

    2 days lying

    6 weeks waiting for a green light

    7 hours vomiting

    14 minutes experiencing pure joy

    (... and continues on with more awesomeness)


    On to my point:

    We talk a lot in this life about wasted time. Worry over it. Try desperately (typically unsuccessfully) to multitask, in order to make up for that time we think we're wasting. At night we may fret before bed of how little we “got done”, or swear how tomorrow will be different; we fantasize over our entire to-do list checked off.

    But, I think we forget this thing about time… time is moving forward, always going, and taking us with it. Each moment – MOMENT – not even minute, our one glass of experience is filling, while our other glass of experience yet to come is draining - and none of us really know just how big that second glass is. We could be sucking droplets out of the bottom with a straw and be blissfully (or not so) unaware.  We don't know. But we spend so much of our time in a state of worry over things not done, annoyance that we’re having to do this, that, or the other, and planning over how to optimize every moment, that we often forget the time is moving on, regardless of how we feel about it, but how we feel about it colors our moments.

    So why not feel good about it? This moment right now. Why not embrace it for what it is – the here & now – the only time we actually HAVE for SURE. How would it feel to believe that THIS MOMENT is exactly what you need it to be.

    As my husband said after listening to the show: Everything is life.

    Everything is life. This blog post. The laundry. Hugs from your kids. It’s all life. It’s all worth it. It's all what you need, right now. 

    Posted: Jul 13 2012, 19:20 by kelly | Comments (0) RSS comment feed |
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    The Profundity of a Little Boy


    Mom, you can never go back to zero. You have to always get bigger, not smaller.

    That's right, you're always growing. 

    When you're 80, you can't go back to 18. You only go up.

    That's true.

    Well then I think you should have as much fun as you want each day, since you can't do that day again.

    You're right.

    - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

    The secret of life, as recognized by a human not even five years on this planet. Well, five that I am aware of, anyhow. My son often has insights like this - like he's closer to 95 than 5. It reminds me to stop & listen to my children when they talk. Often they're doing more than just talking. 



    Posted: May 05 2012, 10:14 by kelly | Comments (3) RSS comment feed |
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    How Would You Change?

    A few evenings ago, Adam & I decided to watch a quick movie before heading up to bed. It was quite late, but we wanted to try to settle our minds a bit after a hectic day – as family, work, and life can sometimes – often – be.  The title of this one struck me, as did the length (brief), so we settled in…


    (okay, deep breath, because I just watched it again before writing this post…)


    I will tell you firstly – in retrospect – this might not be the best thing to watch right before bed. Secondly, if you’re a parent, or soon to be a parent, or want to be a parent, and you watch this… you’re likely to find it deeply affecting.


    I can hope it will affect you in a positive and uplifting way, as it did us.


    See… I often think about my “bucket list”, and/or the things in our life I’d like to do differently – tomorrow, some day, when I have the chance, when I get the opportunity, when I’m in a better place, or frame of mind, or situation, or whatever. I think most of us do – it’s part of the human condition. But when you’re faced with death. In an instant. Like Mr. Elias was, and will describe… I imagine those things we’ve back-burnered, come rushing to the forefront.


    So it really makes me wonder: what am I waiting for? Why not make the best of what I have RIGHT. NOW? Why not try to enjoy each & every moment – small or big, good or bad? If I’m putting out energy, why not make it as positive as possible? And IF I’m putting effort into parenting, why not always do my best to be the most excellent parent I can?  I often find myself being okay with “enough” or even surrendering to the “bad parent” character – because yes, we all have those days, and not everyone can be perfect – but. But what if that day, that one day (that maybe is actually a week or a month, because it’s become a habit to just do enough to get through the day, and the next day will be better, right?), is THE day? The last day? What if that day, I KNOW I didn’t go after life with gusto? That I didn’t choose to be happy? That I didn’t try my best as a parent? What if?

    So with that, I’ll let you watch the video… Ric Elias: Three Things I Learned While My Plane Crashed


    To recap (or, if you can’t see the video for some reason), here’s what Ric Elias learned in those last moments:  


    1) I no longer want to postpone anything in my life.

    2) I decided to eliminate negative energy in my life. I no longer try to be right, I choose to be happy.

    3) Above all, above all - the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad. 

    I was given the gift of a miracle of not dying that day. I was given another gift which was to be able to see into the future and come back and live, differently.

    I challenge you today:

    How would you change?

    What would you get done that you’re waiting to get done because you think you’ll be here forever?

    How would you change your relationships & the negative energy in them?

    And more than anything – are you being the best parent you can be?


    So my readers… I have decided to accept his challenge, and hope you will too. Think about what you would change, and start today – now – to take steps towards that change. Commit to trying your hardest, being your most positive, making the most out of each moment as it comes, and always being the best parent your kids could want.


    Posted: Jan 25 2012, 22:36 by kelly | Comments (1) RSS comment feed |
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    The Tree of Life

    Unless you love, your life will flash by.

    ~Mrs. O’Brien, Mother, The Tree of Life


    For our tenth anniversary, we went to see the film, The Tree of Life. I don't typically review movies here, but this film was so affecting, I'd feel remiss in not writing about it.



    The movie was intensely moving, thought-provoking, and introspective to the point that I may have been in tears as much as not while watching it. So vast in its scope – the meaning of life – that even with it’s more than 2 hours of running time, it was barely able to scratch the surface of why we’re here, yet was able to distill the feelings of human experience (white, middle class, Christian, mid 20th-century human experience, it should be noted) with remarkable poignancy and intimacy.


    Along with the immensity of nature, creation, evolution, and existence, there were expertly woven intricate vignettes of the often uncelebrated moments of life which have shaped us (which many of us humans have filed away in our memories, all but forgotten until this film expertly – and even painfully –  extracts them; see: crying through most of the film, above): the smallness of a newborn’s foot, the willfulness of a toddler, jealousy and then conspiracy with a sibling, the joy and freedom of spinning in circles as a child, learning to trust and then losing that trust, the reassuring touch of mother, the disapproving look of father and the pride felt at his acceptance, the way music can get inside and move you, the loneliness of being human – knowing only your own thoughts, and never really knowing another’s, the rush and tumble of feelings when you do something which you know is wrong, the fear of the unknown, the rawness of learning to forgive, the strangeness and confusion of learning of the presence of the opposite sex, the freedom and otherworldliness of swimming underwater, the deep pain of loss and the ineptness of those around trying to explain and soothe it. And intertwined with the concreteness of our everyday lives, were mammoth metaphors of birth, death, rebirth, god, nature, heaven.



    The film was propelled by breathtaking beauty, poignant music, and immense symbolism.  Channeling deep emotion through gifted acting, we experienced the struggle of children to grow, of parents to teach and guide and love, of the pain of loss, and of the constant effort of humans to understand where we came from, where we are going, and why we are here.


    Interestingly, some viewers left the theatre mid-movie (I’d heard, ahead of watching the film, that people have been very polarized in their reception of this movie). Understandably, this film isn’t for everyone.  It is unapologetically spiritual – yet… firmly embedded in naturalism. It attempts to expose feelings that we may prefer to keep hidden; so at times it was difficult to watch. It is sprawling, occasionally slow-moving, abstract, and non-linear in its storyline. But in spite of any of those potential drawbacks, I’m not sure I’ve ever seen a film more real. If only for the sheer beauty and uniqueness of film, it’s worth a watch; but I came away from it with a more tangible understanding of what I’ve already known and felt: that we all are part of one another and of the earth. And that truly there is nothing more important – no matter what you believe about our inception or destination – than loving and appreciating what we have and where we are, now. Right now.

    Posted: Aug 14 2011, 14:55 by kelly | Comments (4) RSS comment feed |
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